Saturday, January 24, 2009

My New Surrounds (a blessing)

This post is more of a thanks as opposed to a "pity me" type of post, so please, no notes tell me you're sorry....thanks!

Greetings to the faithful few that continue to check this lovely thing, even though I haven't posted in roughly four months (bad, I know).

I know it's been a while and for that I apologize again. I know I need to get better about this and I suppose I can apologize all day long, but actions speak louder than words.

I normally keep my personal life out of this lovely little place, but today I'm going to include it. I had recently been dating a nice girl, but unfortunately that has ended and I'll be honest, I was/am a bit hurt and frustrated about the whole thing. Now I'm not here to talk about that or to put her down, but instead I'd like to focus on what has happened in the past four days, for it has truly been a blessing.

I had been slightly frustrated by everything for about a week and I received a call from my buddy Fitzy on Monday night. It was one of those calls that only a true friend could make, that was difficult at the time, but necessary. Shaun basically called me out. He asked me my feelings, what I thought about everything and then asked me what I was doing still in the relationship. Why was I continuing to go through with it, or as he put it: "If she was Venezuelan, would you still be around?" --Good point

That night I also spoke with Dustin, my long-time friend from high school. He spoke along the same lines as I echoed my frustrations.

When everything went down Wednesday night, I was a bit upset, although I saw it coming through interactions and time spent together during the past week. After it happened, I received an amazing call from my buddy Brad, a true brother of mine and he really picked me up and dusted me off a bit.....telling me not to worry, to just live my life and the woman will come into it....and that I shouldn't spend any more time worrying or thinking about it.

I was irritable at school on Thursday as well, but my teammates, as they always do, had my back. Chelle was her amazing self (filled with anger and some profanity about how she felt towards "that stripper" as she called her....and no mom, she wasn't a stripper). Beth was comforting and reminded me how much that girl didn't deserve me. I have to admit, they really know how to make someone feel good about themselves.

Thursday night I was with my buddy Richard and his wife, who echoed the same thoughts. She wasn't worth it.....live your life and the one will walk into it....just watch.

Last night was the same story....I was with Richard again, as well as my friend Mike and his wife Jessie. Jessie said the same, the girl was selfish, you're awesome, don't worry about it and just live for a bit....it'll come.

I guess there are two points at me telling you this: The first is that Louisville was the right place for me to come. In a matter of months I made some amazing friends that have my back and are extremely supportive. I can't tell you what it meant to me to hear them say those things and to comfort me in a difficult time.

Second: Maybe they're right. I've had four separate people, independent of one another, tell me the same thing: Dust yourself off, live your life and she'll come. Don't worry about, don't push it and when it comes, it will be easy and a good fit.

So that's where I'm at now. I watched some footy today, I'm going to a bball game tonight and I'm going to try and live my life.....not pushing it....but not being totally oblivious to it either. ; )

I hope things are great where you are,

God bless

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Welcome back. I have a new computer now, so I'm looking forward to your new adventures in the states. Aunt Lola

Anonymous said...

Your friends will always see things in a different light. Sometimes much better than yourself. If all four of them are telling you it looks like a duck, smells like a duck, and walks like a duck, it just might be a duck!
DAD

Anonymous said...

Glad you're back online. Good things always come to those who wait, you'll see.

Jude, Stu and Josh.

Anonymous said...

I'm here and I have been waiting. Come and get me!